How To Approach People (This Works Every Time)

How To Approach People (This Works Every Time)

    A Challenge Of Many Leaders:   If you are in ministry, you have to be comfortable meeting new people. Approaching new people is a major win in ministry because if you don’t meet new people how are you going to reach people? If you are like me, approaching people doesn’t come easy. I’m a mix of introvert and extrovert. Part of me is shy and reserved while another part of me is friendly and outgoing. What about you? What I have found is once I meet someone I have no problem engaging in conversation and getting to know someone. However the initial walk across the room to introduce myself doesn’t come easy. So how do you approach people in a way that works every time giving you the best chance to make the walk across the room and connect with someone new? Never approach someone out of obligation but solely out of opportunity.   Yet Another Life Lesson From Camp:   My greatest lessons in h [...]

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Leadership Isn’t About Getting It Right…

Leadership Isn’t About Getting It Right…

So many leaders think that leadership is about being right. I get that.  Who like’s being wrong? But true leadership is about making adjustments. When I first launched EricDingler.com I thought for sure I’d only be doing workplace leadership.  Then, I started to dabble in family leadership.  Then, I added some videos about marriage.  In a short period of 1 year; I lost the vision and drifted right into complexity. Now that my wife and I have our speaking, writing and membership site going all around being Family Life Consultants.  Now that my day job is busier than ever.  Now that my kids need more of my time.  Now that my marriage is such a priority that I need and want to feed it.  Now that; this and that.  I need clear vision more than ever. I need to be as productive as I can with every moment I’m working.  I need to be focused on the things that get the greatest results.  (Come on, some of this has to be hitting h [...]

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Why and How To Lead With Grace

Why and How To Lead With Grace

  Leading can be messy. Leading can be exhausting. Leading can be the most rewarding thing you ever do. There are so many opinions on what “THE KEY” to being a great leader is. Frankly, there isn’t one. Leadership is the high school janitor’s giant ring of keys. Leadership is complex and multifaceted. With that image in mind. We now have this questions. “What is the key ring?” What’s the thing that keeps all of the keys of successful leadership held together? I believe the key ring of leadership is Grace. Let’s define Grace. If you are speeding down the highway and get pulled over, here is what could happen. You get a ticket. This is because you are under the law and your ticket is justice, and what you deserve. You get a warning. This is forgiveness. The cop could have given you the ticket, but decides to be forgiving. The cop walks up to your window and gives you a jelly donut. You [...]

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9 Ideas To Prevent Mid Summer Blues In Your Camp Staff

9 Ideas To Prevent Mid Summer Blues In Your Camp Staff

If you are a camp director, you’ve probable heard the term; “mid-summer-blues”. Mid-summer-blues is that funk that your staff get’s in part way into summer camp. Mid-summer-blues can cause staff to get complacent. And complacent staff can lead to more: homesick campers, preventable injuries, bored campers, a decrease in meeting the camp’s mission and other negative consequences. Not to mention, staff who want to quit. In the last several summers, we’ve kicked mid-summer-blues out the gate. Here are some keys to keeping mid-summer-blues out of your camp’s culture. TIPS AND SUGGESTIONS: Talk about it during staff orientation. Put your staff on the lookout for it. Empower them to prevent it. Talk about the vision, a lot. Keep your team inspired by talking about the “win” every day. Overreact to victories and under-react to setbacks. (I’m blushing, but yes you can click here to twe [...]

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How To Be Understood Better By Everyone

How To Be Understood Better By Everyone

This is one of the workshop topics we cover in training our summer camp supervisors. In fact we cover it with our camp counselors before they work with kids. And, my wife and I talked and practiced this before we got married. In fact, I first learned about it reading a parenting book. This post is a trifecta for my blog. Three of the most common things I write about our marriage, parenting and workplace leadership. This is one of those, Leadership Happens Everywhere kinds of post. Unintentional Covert Messages. I see three things that mostly effect communication. The words we use, The body language we use, The filters the other person uses to process what we’ve said. These are built on previous life experience. For the remainder of this post, I want to focus on the words we use. I used to believe that it wasn’t my responsibility if I accidentally offended someone. But, are people not responsible for car accidents?   I accide [...]

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14 Questions To Ask When Recruiting a Leader

14 Questions To Ask When Recruiting a Leader

I was inspired to write this post by Karin of Lets Grow Leaders when I read and commented on her post, Words With Teams, A Simply Insightful Team-building Exercise.  You should follow her on Twitter by the way…   On my Facebook page I asked; “What’s your favorite question to ask when interviewing a candidate for a leadership position?” THE IDEA:  ”Keep Crazy Out Of The Building” – Dave Ramsey TIPS AND SUGGESTIONS: Here are the answers and explanations offered via Facebook. “What is the most exciting thing you did over the past year?” The answer will give you a level of passion, energy and enthusiasm. – CW Toland. “What’s the biggest risk that they have taken. What made it risky and how did they try to reduce that risk.” It’s also important that fear of failure is not so disabilitating that all risk is avoided or that the lack of that fear prevents p [...]

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How To Make Feedback a G.I.F.T.

  I recently heard a guy at church tell this story about his son, we will call his son Ted. Ted goes golfing for the first time with some friends. His friends were all hitting the ball more then 150 yards. Now Ted, golfing for the first time, could only hit the ball 50 yards.  And, he had a terrible slice.  His ball kept landing almost off the fairway, but at least he was still in the open fairway and could see his ball.  One of the other kids had a pretty much equal slice.  But, he was hitting his ball about 200 yards…his ball was in the trees, in water, in the sand…pretty much anywhere it shouldn’t be. The only difference at play between Ted and the other kid was distance. We also see this principle in workplace leadership. The further you allow someone on you team, or the team itself, to go in the wrong direction..the greater the error. If you avoid a conversation with someone because it will be uncomfortable, the eventual [...]

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Avoid The Biggest Mistake In Setting Goals

Avoid The Biggest Mistake In Setting Goals

The boldness in declaring this The Biggest Mistake in goal setting, is from observations leading several hundred staff and facilitating tens of thousands of people in workshops, conferences, retreats and other personal development experiences in 16 years. Like many people, I use to have terrible goals. In fact, they weren’t even goals at all. I had a list of desires I was working towards accomplishing. Even using S.M.A.R.T. goals. ((see this post on Top Achievement for great information on setting SMART goals), I didn’t have good goals.  And my forward momentum reflected this. For example; I had a desire to get married. I have a desire to raise kids that have happy marriages. I have a desire to increase enrollment at events at work. I’m not saying these are bad things to want. I’m saying I can’t accomplish them as goals. I couldn’t getting married until someone wanted to marry me. I can’t choose [...]

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Be A Better Leader, Leverage Feelings

  “What you do with what you feel is more important than what you feel.” – Dan Rockwell Feelings are good and bad. Good if you understand the reason you have one. Bad if you let your feelings lead you. Good if you understand you behave your way into good feelings, you don’t feel your way into good behavior. (I’m blushing, but sure…you can tweet that) Bad if you ignore them. There is always a reason behind the reason. There is always a reason behind a feeling. A feeling is our sub-conscience telling us something. But what? Anger and frustration signals a blocked goal. Anxiety signals an uncertain goal. Depression signals an impossible goal. We shouldn’t make decisions based on feelings. We can however, judge or test our decisions based on our feelings. If you put your hand on a hot stove top, you don’t leave it there while you apply burn cream or run cold water over it. You remove your [...]

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It’s March, Time To Prepare End of Year Performance Reviews

  Do you do end of year performance reviews? If so. There is no time like March to start preparing. Except, February or January. But, if you didn’t get started then…there’s no time like right now. I used to do a terrible job at these. I’d set at my desk anywhere from the day before to the week before the scheduled review.  Spend 15 to 45 minutes thinking about the person and the job they had done…..in the last month.  And then give cut and paste feedback that was superficial at best. If anything major had happened 8 to 10 months earlier, I might remember it. But, no way I remembered anything small yet still significant. For example.  Last week, my Assistant Director had to clean the camp before a group.  Not something in her Job Description. This coming December….I won’t remember that. OR WILL I??  Well, since I wrote it on her review already….I will. When I first became a leader…no way I would have remember [...]

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